They say that misery loves company. I hope all of you know that this has never been what The FENG was all about.
While it is true that most of us are in that vast and over crowded arena called “middle age” and that the focus of our organization is job search related, what we share as an organization is the idea that none of us are alone.
Yes, you have to do most of the “heavy lifting” yourself when it comes to managing your career, but knowing that there is help and support EVERY WHICH WAY you turn is what makes The FENG different than any other organization of which you might be a member.
Several times a week I speak with new member applicants and make the point that we are a networking group, not a job listing service. Yes, I know we publish about 500+ pages of job leads a month, but don’t let that confuse you.
Out in the world of work, as perhaps the Chief Financial Officer of a company, it can be a little lonely and difficult to make friends. You are Mr./Ms. Inside when it comes to the firm and although everyone treats you with great respect, it is often because you hold the keys to the safe. They are rarely your friends and you would have a conflict of interest in a sense if you let your depth of friendship get too deep with many of the folks with whom you spend the bulk of your time.
As you get your day started and turn on your computer every Monday through Friday mornings, of one thing you can be certain – there will be a newsletter from The FENG for you to read.
We start the newsletter, as you know with my editorial, Doug’s “Fine Point” column, quickly followed by good news announcements and requests for assistance.
There are no totally new ideas in this world, but there are lots of twists and turns that are possible in old ones, which is why the newsletter starts the way that it does.
As far as good news announcements, the thought I would suggest to you is that if someone else found a job in the last few weeks, so can you! And, if you read the requests for assistance and can help, you may just find a new friend. By extending the hand of friendship and lending your advice (please give it back when you are done), you just never know where things can lead. It isn’t a distraction from your quest, it is part and parcel of how to approach your membership in The FENG.
It is easy to feel alone, but the cure in The FENG is also easy.
In addition to our full membership directory with over 50,000 names, you can start by calling a few new members each week. Any excuse will do. (Hey, our names begin with the same letter. What a coincidence!)
In contrast to the ever popular joke “I’m from the parent company and I’m here to help,” your fellow members are there to help.
That said, you only get what you give in life. Will Rogers is famous for saying “I never met a man I didn’t like.” Although I have met some folks I assume Will never knew, the truth is they have been few and far between.
So, “reach out and touch” a few of your fellow members by email, phone or in person at meetings. If you do this often enough, you will never ever be alone again or feel alone again.