Over the course of our own lives, we are often unaware of things we have said and done that have positively affected the lives of those we know. A moment of caring. A word of advice. Sometimes just listening when that is needed. For the person on the receiving end, it just may be something that they will replay in their minds for the rest of their lives.
One of my closely held beliefs is that everyone wants to help, but not everyone knows how to go about it. Part of what we do in our little society called The FENG is teaching each other how to accomplish this very important mission.
What I hope we all be able to do for each other is create the possibility that we will by intention be a force for positive results in those whose lives we touch. Some behaviors are innate. There are those who just “know” the right things to say and do. All of us, however, are learning machines and given the right education we can move mountains.
The essence of The FENG is our ability to help one another through what is for most of us a very difficult time in our lives. The loss of a job affects not only our ability to feed our families, but also affects our self-esteem. Some people also seem to momentarily lose the very gifts of executive judgment that have gotten them to where they were in this world before they became unemployed.
As you go down the road of life as a long standing member of The FENG, keep in mind that anyone who hasn’t been unemployed in their career previously doesn’t know all that you now know about the job search process. Reading our newsletter does pay big dividends, especially if you don’t just jump to the job leads.
If someone has been accepted as a member, they are someone’s friend, and we all have a responsibility to help them on their way. When they ask what might appear to be a stupid question, or if they appear to be unprepared for a conversation with you, or if they miss a promised phone appointment, try to understand that they are stressed with one of life’s major challenges.
Work your magic to calm them down and guide them on their way, even if you have to grit your teeth.
Remember, it might be something that they will remember for the rest of their lives.