I suppose that feeling sorry for yourself feels pretty good. The problem is that it doesn’t do you any good and doesn’t benefit you in any way, shape or form.
In this era of long job searches, it is easy to fall into this pattern of self abuse. Frankly, I don’t encourage it.
While the light at the end of the tunnel may in fact be a speeding locomotive, when it hits us, we won’t know it anyway! So, why not put on a happy face and struggle as best you can?
The truth is that every minute you spend focused on bemoaning that which you cannot change, is a minute you could be doing something productive. Yes, I know the goals you have set for yourself may appear distant or out of reach, but one never really knows.
Before I had a GPS unit on my boat, I had the luxury of thinking I was moving faster than I was. I don’t know, but it was probably better back then. When I was unknowingly faced with a foul tide and making no progress, I was ignorant in my bliss. (Hey, the sails were full and drawing nicely! And, it was a pleasant summer day.)
Our own individual journeys at any point in time can seem endless. But job search isn’t something that yields to the cold calculations on which we have built our careers. Job search is a significantly random process. The end MAY in fact be far off (as in your struggle has just begun), or it may be just around the corner.
Try believing that it is near at hand and you will find your productivity and inner strength are that much greater.
Look, I don’t believe in the Tooth Fairy or that I will win the lottery tomorrow (I don’t buy lottery tickets, which is one problem.), but I do believe in each of you.
So, make a believer out of me and a believer out of yourself. Quitting isn’t an option. (And, isn’t as much fun as some people think.)
Damn the torpedoes, and full speed ahead.
As I say to folks who ask how I get so much done each day – Step one is don’t think about how much you have to do. That is time better spent on doing.