More and more when I talk to members considering job opportunities, the question comes up about how to choose between two similar situations.
Of course, any two situations are never totally similar. There are always obvious differences in responsibilities, titles and compensation. And, if one of the jobs isn’t local, the situation becomes even more complicated because of family situations involving relocation.
If you have been made an offer, chances are they like you. People in a position to choose who THEY want to work with are normally selecting between two or more specific individuals who may both be technically competent to do the job. When push comes to shove, they usually go for the person they want to potentially spend 16 hours a day working with.
If that is their perspective, it should be yours as well. Let’s face it, we spend more time working than we do in “quality time” with our significant other and family if we are so blessed to have them. Who is it you want to spend time with and are you going to enjoy their company?
I would suggest to all of you that after 20 or more years of working you probably have a pretty good sense of who your “people” are. There are those types of individuals I would NEVER want to have on my team, and certainly wouldn’t want to spend my days trying to influence.
For the most part, people don’t change. If the boss is known to have a nasty temper or some other malfunction such as indecisiveness, don’t think for a minute that you will be able to significantly change this person. You are coming into any organization at the top due to your seniority but yet have a limited amount of time to make an impact. Getting along with your new teammates is your first responsibility. If they rub you the wrong way or have business ethics that cause you concern, as much as you may want the money or the new responsibilities, they won’t feel as good as you hope they might if every day you are faced with the reality of all that is going on around you.
I always caution members who ask about the moving issue as well. I will start you off with the idea that there is a very good reason why they call it work. If it was too much fun, clearly they would have to come up with another name for it.
As I said to one of our members at lunch recently, if your spouse and children aren’t happy, it isn’t going to be easy for you to be happy. As the calendar runs, if you have children in school you can’t move the family until the summer. Moving school age children when school is out is your only alternative, but it leaves them with nothing to do and no way to make new friends until the fall. If you are now in the job from “heck,” good luck on finding peace and quiet in the “comfort” of your relocated family.
Choose and choose wisely the people you feel you can stand for that 16 hour day. Money is nice, but the truth is that it is ALWAYS about the people. They are what makes the business happen and they are the ones you have to influence and put up with.
Good luck in your decision if you “go for the gold.”