I’m sure all of you have heard the joke about the executive who was addressing the entire staff and when he came to the part about having an open door policy, he asked if whoever took his door would give it back.
Well, the open door policy in The FENG is of a similar nature. None of us should have closed doors when it comes to communications from our fellow members. Yes, I know that at times we get messages from our fellow members that appear to be a little impersonal and/or not well thought out, but we should all give these “misguided” individuals the benefit of the doubt and try to help them anyway. Not everyone is a wiz with the written word. I would also point out that email has no tone.
The inherent sincerity that I hope is in the DNA of each of our members by reason of their being a part of our little family is not always easy to see. When others are stressed out, and you may be stressed out at the moment too, your goal needs to be patience and understanding.
The core value of The FENG is our willingness to help one another on any and all problems a fellow member may raise with us. It isn’t always easy, but if it was easy, anyone could do it.
What we are trying to create as our organization matures is a very large small family. It is large in the sense that we have a huge number of members to choose from, but it is a small family because we have been able to divide ourselves into chapters and special interest groups and inner circles of friends.
Not everyone is a perfect fit for you and the issues you are trying to resolve on a particular day. On the taking side, I ask that you be selective and only contact those individuals that you honestly believe can help you. Striking out in all directions and writing to everyone is a strategy that will dilute even the strength of an organization like The FENG.
At the beginning of your relationship with The FENG, someone extended the hand of friendship to you and offered to sponsor you. Little did you know what you were getting yourself into. The FENG is like the mafia in the sense that you can join, but you can’t quit. Honestly, there is no reason to quit.
That said, to be a member in good standing, I hope I can always count on each and everyone one of you to do “The FENG thing,” which very simply is to always have your door open to your fellow members.
I know based on the rather significant number of our members that are working that you are all very busy. We are all very busy. Count yourself lucky if you are busy. Hard as it is to believe, there are members who would give anything to find another job. That is where all of us come in.
This job search thing appears to be a process filled with mystery. It is a skill all of us need to learn who want to be working. Your goal if you have mastered this skill or are trying to master it is to share your knowledge and experience.
So, I hope when you next get an email or a phone call from one of your fellow members, you will take a deep breath and consider how you can help. I know the boss is calling you every 5 minutes about that report you were supposed to finish yesterday, but he can probably wait. (After all, it is already late.) You will find that helping others is the world’s best stress reliever.
Remember, every day and in every way, it all starts with you. If you help others, when you need help this resource called The FENG will be there for you, in spades.