A few weeks ago I was doing a pretty good job of keeping up with my email. This past week or so, not so good. I must admit that from time to time I have fallen very far behind. (My personal record is 600 or 800 unanswered after one of my vacations, but that was a long time ago.)
Sure, I know all of you can appreciate how much email I get and are forgiving if I fall behind, but I sort of feel that I have made a commitment and I should make every effort to get back to those who need my help on a timely basis. Having been out of work myself for almost two years back in 1991-1992, I know how it feels.
I can’t help but be struck by the requests I get from members from time to time wanting to stop the delivery of their evening newsletter. I am no longer shocked by these requests, but I am always disappointed. It is as if now that they have a job (and that is apparently the case with most of these requests), they don’t need us anymore. If I understand their logic, now that they have landed, they are okay and they have somehow conveniently forgotten about their obligation to “pay back” all of the members of our august body who have helped them along the way.
While it may appear to many of us that we give more than we get, the favors we get by being members of The FENG are at times subtle and I can understand that some folks don’t “get it.”
Where do they think all the job leads come from? I can assure you that although it seems to be magic, it isn’t. Day in and day out SOMEBODY is taking the time to send in a lead. Even if it isn’t a fit for you EVER, it hopefully gives you the courage to go on just knowing that there are jobs out there. Even “Good News Announcements” are a gift of hope. If someone got a job today, perhaps you will.
I am particularly amused by the notes that say: I’m starting a new job on Monday. Stop the newsletter, I don’t need it anymore. You would think that they would at least wait until Friday, wouldn’t you?
For those of you who are not aware of it, I try to apply the sailor’s rule of always stopping to help anyone in need. The idea behind this is that if and when my turn comes, I only hope that there are others out there who will do the same. But you know what? Even if there aren’t, the simple act of extending the hand of friendship to others always makes up for any inconvenience or hours I have to work to make up for the time I have spent on the phone with someone who just needed a few words of encouragement or wisdom to see the issues they are facing a little more clearly.
I know this approach to life is a truth for a huge percentage of our members. Let’s keep working to make it 100%, especially in these uncertain times.