Putting your own mask on first

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For those of you who have had the pleasure of earning frequent flier miles, I can understand that you may no longer be paying strict attention to the very helpful discussion that precedes take off. Personally, I don’t think that anyone who doesn’t know how to work the seat belt should real...


Oct 18, 2018

By Matt Bud, The FENG

On being a society of friends

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The FENG is a society of friends. In order to become a member of our august body you need to find a sponsor, someone who will hopefully watch over you. I suppose, it is often only after a few days or weeks of membership that you can fully appreciate the value of this act of friendship.Ther...


Dec 06, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The difficulty of being a friend

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I often refer to The FENG as a circle of friends. In a very real sense, the power of The FENG is our interconnectedness, and if that isn’t friendship, I don’t know what is. Were it not a true fact that we have reduced 6 degrees of separation down to less than 3, networking within our littl...


Jan 17, 2022

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The value of free advice

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There is, of course, the old saw that free advice is worth what you paid for it. That said, it has been my experience that some of the advice I have paid for over the years was worth less and in some cases was worthless. (Notice the interesting play on words.)I think the operative expressi...


Feb 23, 2022

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Don’t shoot the piano player

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If job search is one thing, it is stressful. The uncertainty, the very idea that others are sitting in judgment on your credentials without you there to defend yourself, can all work to cause you to over react to situations.My first job out of the Army in 1971 was in retailing at B. Altman...


Mar 03, 2022

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Help me out – buy a ticket

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I try to have several phone calls every week with members seeking advice about what to do about their job search.It is a good question and one not easily answered even if I know you very well. In the course of a conversation (speech is the slowest form of communication), I don’t know how m...


May 16, 2022

By Matt Bud, The FENG

A sense of inner calm

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When jobs are winding down, it can be very difficult to “keep it all together.”I’m sure we have all been there. During that final period of time, whether it is 3 weeks, 3 months, or even longer, as “the forces of evil” overwhelm the organization you have worked so hard to make profitable, ...


Mar 21, 2022

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The responsibilities of sponsors

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As I hope all of you know, The FENG is not a fee for service. Our most important “folkway” is that in order to be accepted as a new member, you either need to have a sponsor, or you need to find one. As Chairman since 1996, I take the time each and every week to review new member applicant...


Jul 29, 2019

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Handling negotiations

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There is nothing harder than handling a negotiation that involves your own personal finances. We have all been through tough negotiations that stood to benefit the firms for which we have worked, but nothing can create more stress than when the negotiations involve our own salary or severa...


Aug 01, 2019

By Matt Bud, The FENG

On being gracious in defeat

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I have written many times about the fact that when the answer is no, you don’t get much honest information. There are two approaches that are typically used. The first is what I call “The excuse you can’t cure.” If you only had a CPA, and you don’t, there isn’t much that you can say. The s...


Oct 16, 2019

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Our open door policy

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I’m sure all of you have heard the joke about the executive who was addressing the entire staff and when he came to the part about having an open door policy, he asked if whoever took his door would give it back. Well, the open door policy in The FENG is of a similar nature. None of us sho...


Dec 15, 2019

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Increasing the depth of your friendships

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Several years ago I read a book sent to me by one of our Associate members, Rich Guha. The title of the book was How to Get What You Most Want in Life. At 103 pages, even the busiest of our members honestly has the time to read this rare volume. I can assure you it is worth the time. If yo...


Oct 20, 2019

By Matt Bud, The FENG

A curious requirement

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We don’t get as many members applying without sponsors as we used to, but we still get a few. For those who are qualified for membership, each Monday morning after I have finished my new member review for the weekend and sent out our new member announcement, Judith Rudikoff, one of our Adm...


May 22, 2019

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Paint on a smile

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Over the next two weeks or so, a great opportunity will be presenting itself to you in the form of gatherings of those who know you (and presumably love you). (Hopefully Covid-19 won’t interfere too much.)In order to enjoy the greatest benefit, you need to paint on a smile. I don’t care if...


Dec 20, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

It’s all in the preparation

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According to a survey that Bruce Lynn completed late last year, only about 30% of our members have ever been to a chapter meeting. In a word, those of you who have never attended a meeting of The FENG are missing out big time. (And no, we don’t wear funny hats or actually have a secret han...


Jan 28, 2019

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Impacting the lives of others

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Over the course of our own lives, we are often unaware of things we have said and done that have positively affected the lives of those we know. A moment of caring. A word of advice. Sometimes just listening when that is needed. For the person on the receiving end, it just may be something...


Feb 19, 2020

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Why do boaters wave at each other?

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I don’t know about you, but there are lots of things in this world that I wonder about. At one time I wondered about why the sky was blue, but that was before Google. I guess there are lots of things we don’t need to wonder about anymore. We can just look them up. The above topic wasn’t on...


May 11, 2020

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Say what?

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I used to be very good at multi-tasking. Now that I have gotten older, I am not as good at it. I have a lot to do every day, so when someone writes or calls I find it very helpful if they take a moment at the beginning of their communication to give me some hint how I might be most helpful...


Jun 04, 2020

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Man is a political animal

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One of the common complaints I hear from people about their current or prior jobs is how political the situation is or was. To me, this is like complaining about the weather. There is always going to be weather. It is my belief that you can’t really appreciate a sunny day unless you have e...


Jun 15, 2020

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Corporations are reptilian

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I hope no one will be offended by the thought that corporations are reptilian. All I mean to imply by this statement is that although corporations appear to have human elements, they actually have no feelings. We have all met and in fact we may individually have been dedicated employees, b...


Jun 14, 2020

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Reinforcing appropriate behavior

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In one of the jobs I had early in my career I was Business Manager for the College Publishing division of CBS. It was an interesting job. All of the folks around me were well educated and always testing my knowledge and experience. They were also great teachers. One of our most popular boo...


Jun 30, 2020

By Matt Bud, The FENG