The ultimate scam

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I was recently reminded of one of my favored approaches to networking that I discovered in the early 90’s. (Sometime in the late-90’s I stopped calling some of the things I was doing “scams” and started calling them “approaches,” which for some reason those in polite society found more acc...


Sep 04, 2018

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Working your contacts

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I would be the first one to agree that finding ways to keep in touch with your business contacts during a job search is more art than science. That said the old saw “out of sight, out of mind” applies here.At the end of my two year job search which began in 1991, I had about 1,400 index ca...


Oct 05, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Creating an inner circle of friends

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It is a sad fact of life that no one ever has enough friends. Men in particular (and our membership is 90% men) seem to have a difficult time making friends.The whole “guy thing” sort of works against us, I suppose. Men are supposed to be strong and never need help from anyone. Remember wh...


Oct 10, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The gift of friendship

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As all of you know, The FENG is a circle of friends, not a fee for service. In order to join, someone needs to sponsor you. That act of friendship is how everyone gets started. It is one of those dumb things I came up with at the beginning of time itself that I believe has made our network...


May 15, 2022

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Taking in each other’s laundry

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Networking is what The FENG is all about. And, it has a lot of not so obvious twists and turns, one of which I am going to go over tonight. I hope all of you are becoming pros at using our Member Directory Search feature and calling up other members. I hope that those members you are conta...


Jul 24, 2019

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Human interaction

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Sailors are a naturally friendly lot. (Yes, another sailing analogy!) As one of the other couples my wife and I met at a marina pointed out, it would be considered more than a little strange to go to a motel or hotel and start introducing yourself to other people and ask them if they wante...


Jul 26, 2020

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Asking for and accepting help

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One of the biggest challenges I face on a daily basis is getting our members to ask for and accept help when they need it. I suppose it is a guy thing and roughly 90% of our members are guys. As everyone knows, guys don’t ask for directions at the gas station. (Have you ever wondered why? ...


Dec 16, 2019

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Some dumb ideas actually work

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Back at the beginning of time itself when my good friend Ed Devlin was running what was to become The FENG, he invited me to join. (I don’t know what he was thinking.) Seeing the networking opportunity for my own job search, I immediately offered to act as social chairman for our small gat...


Oct 13, 2020

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Time is of the essence

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For those of you who have had the honor of dealing with legal matters, you know that the phrase “Time is of the essence” is frequently used in contracts. The idea is that if you want to get the deal done, you better move quickly. (In other words, you will need to get off your duff.) The wo...


Mar 22, 2018

By Matt Bud, The FENG

A rhinoceros and a piece of paper

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Many years ago, my son and I were rowing out to our mooring to go sailing with my father-in-law. My son, who was probably 8 or 9 at the time, asked my father-in-law if he knew the EXACT difference between a rhinoceros and a piece of paper. After several totally wrong guesses, my son gave h...


Jul 29, 2018

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Passive job searching

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I once got a note from one of our members listing several websites with job listings. The question was which ones to sign up for given that some of them had fees associated with them.I will now talk out of both sides of my mouth, so pay attention.Here in The FENG evening newsletter, we mak...


Oct 26, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Phones don’t bite

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One of our chapter chairs called me recently, and as usual when he calls, we had a wide ranging conversation about members of The FENG, friends (sometimes these two overlap), and family matters. There generally aren’t many moments of silence since we always have so much to talk about. Sinc...


Jun 07, 2017

By Matt Bud, The FENG

A fair fight

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One of the most over rated things in this world is a fair fight. I suppose the belief in a fair fight is to a very large degree all part of the American Western heritage of the gunfighter. Two men armed with six-shooters (the great equalizer) standing 20 paces apart face each other in the ...


Apr 18, 2017

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The importance of being personal

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I don’t know about you, but I can almost always tell when I get a thinly disguised personal mailing that is actually a mass mailing of some kind. On the one hand, I am glad you are communicating with a lot of folks because you need to do that. But, there is a big difference between doing a...


Feb 03, 2020

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The importance of labels

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For those of us who read the newspaper from time to time, one can’t help but notice that just about everyone who is mentioned in any story is given a label.The label selected is usually something very simple such as “a 46 year old truck driver from Illinois.” In this case it is someone’s c...


Oct 21, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

It’s always about you

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There was a very silly movie that came out many years ago with Brad Pitt and Julia Roberts called “The Mexican.” The most memorable scene if you recall the advertising for the movie has Julia Roberts standing on a balcony throwing Brad’s clothes at him and screaming “It’s always about you!...


Feb 21, 2022

By Matt Bud, The FENG