The original conversation killer

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My wife is a speech pathologist by education and early work experience. One of the things that drives her crazy is one word answers. Her approach in teaching speech has always been to ask questions that create a conversation. The only way to get the kids she was working with to improve the...


Apr 05, 2018

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Bashfulness is not my strong suit

Bashfulness is not my strong suit Cover Image

Hard to believe, but bashfulness is apparently a quite prevalent condition among our membership. Yes, these same individuals who in prior lives as bankers were cutting off lines of credit or foreclosing on hapless widows have a near terminal fear of picking up the phone and calling other m...


Apr 24, 2018

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Everyone wants to help

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I know that some of you who have been at job search for a period of time may find this hard to believe, but everyone wants to help, it is just that they don’t always know how. I see it all the time at chapter meetings. Each person does their 90-second elevator speech, but rarely do they ma...


Apr 22, 2018

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Keeping hope alive

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Whether you are currently working and hate your job or are currently in active search mode, the most important job you have every day is maintaining an optimistic view of the future. The stresses and strains of a job that is winding down may at times seem beyond bearable. Back in 1991 duri...


Apr 26, 2018

By Matt Bud, The FENG

A fine line

A fine line Cover Image

The difference between being viewed as possessing dogged persistence and being an outright pest is hard to define. Like beauty or obscenity, I guess we know it when we see it. I have had many jobs over the course of my career, some paid, some volunteer that have involved collection work. W...


May 20, 2018

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Networking-A lifetime activity

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I was fortunate to speak with two of our more experienced chapter chairs recently who each in their own way in our wide ranging conversations reminded me of the importance of networking as a lifetime activity. I suppose to a degree, networking doesn’t come naturally to us financial types. ...


May 14, 2018

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Please, no sad stories

Please, no sad stories Cover Image

As we all blast out of here for the long Labor Day weekend, let me give you a few suggestions to make your “time off’ most productive. I hope that all of you will be sharing some good times with family and old friends. (All my friends are old, but I digress.) If you are currently unemploye...


Aug 30, 2018

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The benefit of the doubt

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The FENG is a networking organization. I hope none of you are fooled by the volume of job leads we publish. The actual purpose of our little circle of friends is to be helpful to one another as often as possible in this struggle we all face to earn a living.In my role as Chairman, I am alw...


Sep 20, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

I know this will come as a surprise

I know this will come as a surprise Cover Image

From time to time I give a presentation to the Westport Chapter about how to use our website, and in particular how to use our not so new Member Directory Search feature. Based on the great interest of those attending, apparently there are quite a few members who haven’t taken the time to ...


Oct 30, 2018

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The beginning of time itself

The beginning of time itself Cover Image

I know you will all find this hard to believe, but there was a time when The FENG only had 20 members.In May of 1995, I was invited by Ed Devlin, the then Chairman, to join what was at that time The Fairfield County Financial Executives Networking Group. (Ed had recently taken over from Do...


Nov 11, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

From Black Friday to New Year’s Eve

From Black Friday to New Year’s Eve Cover Image

I know many of you will find it hard to believe, but we are now in a golden period for networking, networking and MORE networking. So, I hope you will please have at it.A lot of people believe that holiday times and especially the period from Thanksgiving to New Year’s Eve are the worst ti...


Nov 21, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The Hotel California

The Hotel California Cover Image

As you may remember from the song of this same name, you can check out anytime you like, but you can never leave. I know they thought of it first and popularized it, but it is very much like your membership in The FENG. The only difference is you can check out, but I hope you won’t.If you ...


Nov 18, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Putting your own mask on first

Putting your own mask on first Cover Image

For those of you who have had the pleasure of earning frequent flier miles, I can understand that you may no longer be paying strict attention to the very helpful discussion that precedes take off. Personally, I don’t think that anyone who doesn’t know how to work the seat belt should real...


Oct 18, 2018

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Networking is a contact sport

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The FENG, as our name implies, is a networking group. I know some of you may be fooled from time to time by the fact that we publish job leads, but please don’t be confused.The sharing of job leads is an act of friendship, plain and simple. As much as we make every attempt to make the job ...


Mar 02, 2022

By Matt Bud, The FENG

How to be a Fanatic FENG’er

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As I mention from time to time, The FENG is a NETWORKING group. It isn’t a job board.Just as Kermit the Frog found out that it isn’t easy being green, no one ever said it was going to be easy being a member of The FENG.Membership in our little society comes with a price. Sure, your cash co...


Mar 06, 2022

By Matt Bud, The FENG

From desperation to real networking

From desperation to real networking Cover Image

Networking is a process by which you can create meaningful business contacts and relationships to further your career and enhance your professional life.It is unfortunate that many of us only become aware of the importance of networking when we first become unemployed. And then, many of us...


Apr 05, 2022

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The world is a finite place

The world is a finite place Cover Image

When you are out in the middle of the ocean, it is easy to think of the world as being endless. Every direction you look there is only water. (And yes, water, water everywhere, but not a drop to drink.)However, the truth is that although over 70% of the earth’s surface is salt water, 30% o...


Apr 26, 2022

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Allowing others to wear us down

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I had lunch a long time ago with one of our members. I always enjoy meeting and talking to the members of our august body because I am reminded of issues that I have discussed before that bear repeating. And, when I discuss them again, it is usually with a different twist because I continu...


Jul 23, 2019

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Working those business contacts

Working those business contacts Cover Image

One of the biggest half-truths in this world is the idea of saving your business contacts. The truth is that unless you “work” your business contacts they don’t know you exist. Sure, you don’t want to “bother” them, but unless you call once in a while with something they actually can do fo...


Aug 20, 2019

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The networking process

The networking process Cover Image

In the days of wooden ships and iron men, the determination of longitude was thought to be an impossibility. The simple solution was creating a clock that was accurate enough to keep track of what time it was in Greenwich, England. If you knew what time it was at a fixed point and you knew...


Sep 24, 2019

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Approaching networking contacts

Approaching networking contacts Cover Image

Since The FENG has been built by friends introducing friends, I imagine that as an organization we are probably more sensitive to networking abuses than most people. Still, I thought it might be helpful if I took a little time tonight and suggested a few ways to go about this delicate proc...


Sep 10, 2019

By Matt Bud, The FENG