Giving up is not really a good idea

Being Out of Work

Giving up is not really a good idea Cover Image

At some point during a long job search I often get an email from a member in which the primary message is about “the futility of it all.”Having been out of work myself for almost two full years in 1991 and 1992, I guess I can say I’ve been there and done that.Being out of work is never eas...

Nov 29, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Thanksgiving Cover Image

As we begin “the holiday season,” I hope everyone will spend a few minutes counting their blessings.Although the specter of Covid-19 appears to be continuing to hang over us, it is vitally important to keep a positive attitude about life and our career prospects in the days, weeks, months ...

Nov 23, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

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Every once in a while, things get quiet. There is no email (except for our newsletter), and there are no phone calls or Zoom meetings to attend.If you are actively looking for work, it can be a maddening experience.Instead of sitting with your hands folded on your desk, this is a good time...

Nov 22, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

From Black Friday to New Year’s Eve


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I know many of you will find it hard to believe, but we are now in a golden period for networking, networking and MORE networking. So, I hope you will please have at it.A lot of people believe that holiday times and especially the period from Thanksgiving to New Year’s Eve are the worst ti...

Nov 21, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The Hotel California Cover Image

As you may remember from the song of this same name, you can check out anytime you like, but you can never leave. I know they thought of it first and popularized it, but it is very much like your membership in The FENG. The only difference is you can check out, but I hope you won’t.If you ...

Nov 18, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The illusion of trust Cover Image

It is always difficult to explain why you trust someone.In our daily encounters out in the world we come across all kinds of folks. Most of the individuals we do business with on a daily basis don’t have to be our friends, and the nature of the exchanges we have with them don’t even requir...

Nov 17, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The wind in your sails-not

Evolving Job Market

The wind in your sails-not Cover Image

A long time ago I read a book by Dodge Morgan. Those non-sailors among us will probably not recognize his name, but in his 50’s, Dodge decided to sail solo around the world on a sloop especially designed for him. (I also bought the video of his voyage and heard him speak in person about hi...

Nov 16, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Weather forecasting

Evolving Job Market

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Ever the wise sailor, I always (well, almost always) check the weather forecast before heading down to the boat to go out for the day.This may or may not be a valuable activity. My wife jokes that in her next life she wants to be a weather forecaster. They never have to be right and they s...

Nov 15, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Reinventing yourself Cover Image

Much as I hate using cliché phrases as the one above, I don’t really know if there is a better one to describe the process of self-examination that is required when faced with looking for another “work opportunity.”(I call them work opportunities instead of jobs, because they don’t general...

Nov 14, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The beginning of time itself


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I know you will all find this hard to believe, but there was a time when The FENG only had 20 members.In May of 1995, I was invited by Ed Devlin, the then Chairman, to join what was at that time The Fairfield County Financial Executives Networking Group. (Ed had recently taken over from Do...

Nov 11, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

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People who know that my wife and I are into sailing often ask us what we most enjoy making for dinner when we are on the boat. My standard response is reservations.The hard part is, of course, picking the restaurant. Are we in the mood for Mexican food, Pizza, French, Italian, or Chinese? ...

Nov 10, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Watching each other's back

Human Interactions Old Friends

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I don’t know if you have noticed, but all of the job leads from The FECG include a sentence that says “You may forward this to other members of The FENG if you are aware of their background and/or interest in this kind of opportunity.”I wish all the job leads in our newsletter had this sen...

Nov 09, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Politeness & proper manners

Human Interactions

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I am not going to suggest to you that the world of The FENG is a perfect place. That said, I hope that someday we will be recognized as one of the organizations that “started it all.”We all know that common courtesy is very rare in today’s world, which makes you wonder why they call it com...

Nov 08, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Learning the basics

Evolving Job Market

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When I first got into sailing as a young man (I was in my 30’s), my father-in-law suggested we take a class – what a concept!Sailing is actually pretty simple. First, you can’t sail directly into the wind (I wonder why?). Next, never spit into the wind. And finally, if you feel yourself ge...

Nov 07, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

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One of our members wrote to me a few years ago seeking some career advice. It seems his firm is restructuring and his job is being eliminated. That said, he has some “work opportunities” that are available to him, (some at his current firm) but all of which are a little off task to his pri...

Nov 04, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

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For almost a decade I was Chief Financial Officer of an Advertising Agency.In addition to learning how to deal with a wild and crazy bunch of folks, I learned a lot not only about the advertising business, but also about advertising in general.One of the facts that I learned was that a goo...

Nov 03, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The FENG’s complaint department


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I don’t know if all of you know it, but I started my career in retailing at B. Altman & Company, one of the old line “Carriage Trade” retailers in New York City, and an interesting place to be sure.To be successful in this retailing segment you had to treat your customers’ right. All m...

Nov 02, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Walter Mitty and other matters

Being Out of Work

Walter Mitty and other matters Cover Image

Walter Mitty was an interesting guy. Although he did one thing in his real life, he had the opportunity to do lots of exciting things in his imaginary life.As we advance in our careers, I think all of us want the opportunity to do new and different things. It is only normal to want to chan...

Nov 01, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG



Abbreviations Cover Image

I guess the desire to shorten just about everything is part of human nature. I once worked with a guy named Harry and the boss insisted on calling him Har. I suppose he could have called him H, but maybe that was TOO short.When I was in college, everyone was talking about the ATGSB. For th...

Oct 31, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

A visualization of the ideal candidate

Evolving Job Market

A visualization of the ideal candidate Cover Image

The classic cruel joke of job search is that the client is looking for someone just like you, but much younger.Of course, no one can use these exact words out of fear of getting sued for age discrimination, which we all know is illegal. Setting illogically low levels of experience and/or d...

Oct 28, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The official change of seasons

Being Out of Work

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As the days of fall begin to arrive in the Northeast and the trees begin to change colors, it is all very beautiful. (However, yesterday it rained hard all day and today it was very windy.) Earlier this month I mostly finished decommissioning our sailboat for the season. This past weekend ...

Oct 27, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG